And make a choice to (en)lighten your perspective. Can you tell me more about how you came to that point of view? Respond with curiosity: “That’s really interesting. I realise this is just one perspective, and I wonder what I might be missing.” Share with humility: “Here’s what I think. Īs a leader and change maker, how you share, and how you respond, matters. And research shows that we’re more effective as leaders. Yet when we step into trying to understand others perspective, new possibilities emerge. Our workplaces and our world can drive us to staying with the familiar, working in our silo, and seeking only feedback from a few trusted sources.
Any chance of expanding our perspective is lost. If either of these conditions aren’t met, we can go into defence mode. does my opinion count?), and Relatedness (i.e. In this case, the threat might be related to two aspects of David Rock’s SCARF model : Status (i.e. Neuroscience tells us that our brain kicks into ‘fight or flight’ mode when we’re under perceived threat in social situations. I reckon that’s often because we feel the need to defend our position. Too often, we tightly hold our perspective as if it is the truth. As leaders, our role is to facilitate others to take multiple perspectives We always only have part of the picture, and the work is to understand the fuller picture so we can find new possibilities to navigate our way. To find our way through, the ability to see things from multiple perspectives matters. In a complex world, issues have many facets. In each case, you’d have a partially right view, but not the whole picture. What would you see if you took the side viewpoint? You’d see a triangle, and probably conclude that whatever was in there is triangular. What would you see if you took the top viewpoint? You’d see a circle, and probably conclude that whatever was in there is round. The other is from a small hole on the side. You can only see into the box from two perspectives. But you don’t know that there’s a cone there. Imagine there’s a box with a cone inside. I’m reminded of Judy Brown’s powerful Cone in the Box metaphor. All energy was being put into defense and attack, and none into expanding one’s own perspective. What learning was going on? None, I suspect.Is there truly one ‘right’ point of view in a complex issue such as this?.It became a raw, passionate debate, with both people trying to show that they were right, while trying to make the other person wrong. I noticed that the dynamic between those two quickly went to defending their own point of view, while trying to pick holes in the other’s.
There were two people in the circle with polar opposite viewpoints. From memory, we were talking about the gay marriage debate that was raging in Australia a couple of years ago. One evening, our crew were sitting and chatting around the campfire. On my recent windsurfing trip in Western Australia, I noticed an interesting social dynamic.
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